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On Becoming a Doula

I have the great gift of attending a friends’ birth soon. The fact that she even asked me spurred me on to making a decision that I only vaguely contemplated before. I am becoming a Doula. A doula is someone who provides non-medical support for women and their families as they prepare for childbirth, as well as attending the birth and gives support to a newly postpartum mom as she figures out breastfeeding and caring for her new baby. This is an area that I am very passionate about.

When I first heard about doulas, my friend was just launching her own doula career. The way she described it made me think of what I would want from my mother or a sister when I was in labour. A comradeship of women attending me as I birthed. It sounded beautiful and inspiring. I thought, oh that would be so purposeful. I wonder if I would like doing that…?

When I first peed on the pregnancy stick, I didn’t even believe my eyes. I phoned the friend I mentioned above a couple days later, and said “I think I might be pregnant.” And she had me pee on a pregnancy test while I was on the phone with her. It was again, positive. She rejoiced with me as I tried to fully digest the News! I was going to be a Mother!

Throughout my pregnancy, I called this friend often with many different questions. It was such a relief to have someone knowledgeable and with resources to find the answers to my questions. Sometimes I wasn’t sure if a question merited a call to the midwife, so having a doula as a sounding board for what was normal or what was unusual was invaluable to me.

After giving birth, and being so empowered by my own birth experience, I knew I wanted to be able to give to other moms in the same way I received during my pregnancy. I began reading books. I started with The Birth Partner, continued with Ina May’s books on childbirth and breastfeeding, and now I’m reading The Doula Book. I took a weekend course with a beautiful teacher Doula from Tofino who was generous with her knowledge and 25 year experience. I am so excited to dive into this new pursuit.

Right now I am happily offering my services as a Doula Candidate for free so that I can gain experience and apply for my certification through Dona International, an organization who supports and certifies Doulas. I also look forward to always offering my services at no charge to any moms who find out that their baby has a congenital heart defect. Since this area requires a vocabular, expeience and skill-set that I have through my recent experience with Gabrielle, I feel like I am well equipped to support moms and their families with this unique challenge.

Please, if you have any questions or you yourself are looking for a doula, feel free to leave a comment or email me at amandaasabee (at) gmail (dot) com.