While being grateful, having the flu.


Hi, my name is Amanda and I have the stomach flu. Boo!

And can you believe, I have been grateful today. No this is not a post of how wonderful my attitude is when I’m sick because seriously, who does that? But this is me reminding myself that even today, sick as a proverbial dog, I am grateful that I am not on call. I am thankful it’s Saturday and my husband is home with Miss G and that she even got a beach date in with Gramma.

It was even a relatively sunny day for my friends’ moving party (which I could not attend and I am not grateful for that!)

A friend asked me recently if Gabrielle’s “upcoming two” behaviour was truly horrible? She wanted to know how bad it got, how close was I to throwing my kid out the window?

I said, “Well compared to heart surgery, this is all a breeze.”

And I say this about my icky flu too.

But we can’t live there. In that intensely awful yet grateful place too. I can’t stay in those extremes. So when life calms down and is flowing “normally” I blog about having the flu. When I was watching my child go through heart surgery, there was a mom forum where a mom was complaining that her 4 week old baby slept on her stomach. Please help! My baby is sleeping on her tummy! I thankfully kept my fingers still and did not comment that my baby, at the same age, was in heart surgery so please let your baby sleep on her tummy.

Because we can’t live there. We can’t stay in a place where everything is life or death, where we’re hanging on a thread. But sometimes we do live there, for months at a time as Baby Maya’s family aptly demonstrated.

I complain as much as the next person when my kid won’t poop on the potty or when her whining is driving me up the wall. But at the end of the day, I hold her and my heart bursts with mushy mooshy appreciation that she is with me. Last week I held her close to my chest when she wouldn’t go to sleep, and I felt her enlarged repaired heart beating against my heart. Have you ever felt that? Your kid’s heart against your own heart?

I can tell you, I wasn’t dry-eyed about the experience and it gave me that much more grace for her as she’s figuring this world out. Because I’m seriously grateful, even on flu days, that she is exactly the way she is.

About Amanda

Living a simple quiet life on the Gulf Islands, BC.

6 Thoughts on “While being grateful, having the flu.

  1. Nooooo, don’t be sick. I HATE that. Moms should NEVER get sick.

    And thank you for sharing your experience about having to hold back on other people’s “troubles” when you were going through such incredibly difficult ones. I can only imagine how hard that must have been.

    I’m so grateful that Gabrielle’s beautiful heart is beating for you too.

    And I really hope you feel better soon.

  2. So sorry you are sick, sweetie. So thankful your very good man who takes good care of you.

  3. Such is the TOF mom mantra…love this post. Hope you’re back to your usual self soon…

  4. Cidnie on 2 October, 2012 at 10:40 am said:

    I hope you are feeling better. I get it, the being grateful in the midst of annoyances. My wish would be for no parent to ever lose a child or to have to watch their little one suffer through a serious illness or disability but it would be nice if parents could gain the gratitude that comes with it. Kitty is absolutely driving me insane with her full on, hell on wheels two year old antics and I am so, so thankful for it.

  5. Danielle on 2 October, 2012 at 9:13 pm said:

    Every beat of Brie’s heart is one that I am thankful for. Hope your on the mend and back to enjoying every minute of your little girl.

  6. Heath Brunnett on 6 February, 2013 at 7:12 am said:

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